Dear Old Friend

​Most of the people I've grown apart from, I've been okay with the fact that we grew apart and wouldn't want it any other way. I'm not trying to be shady, but some things are just not for me and I'm cool with that. However, there's one of my former friends that I miss so much. We grew apart and will probably not come together again. I think she did what she had to do and as much as it hurt me for her to make that decision, I understand having to do what's best for you no matter the cost. 

Dear Old Friend, 

I swear you showed up outta nowhere!! My best friend was hanging out with some new girl and she kept telling me I needed to meet her. We met, we drank, and our friendship was solidified. 

I pray the memories I have with you never fade. When I think of the times in my life where I had the most fun, you were almost always there. I'm always going to have a special place in my heart for anyone who made me laugh as much as you did. I think back to our Ariana Grande road trip, Cinco de Mayo, your birthday in Cincy with the whole wig situation (LMFAO) (SORRY TEJ), decorating gingerbread cookies, and our ugly day on my couch being sad about boys and watching movies. OMG THE SHOTS, BITCH! SO MANY SHOTS!  I feel like we could talk about anything and if we couldn't talk it out, there were always drinks to be had LOL Also, I never seen anybody throw up cute, especially while they were drunk. Like wtf?! 

When the friendship started to fade, I was very confused. I'm not exactly sure what happened, as things ended very abruptly. I need to confess that I said some things that I shouldn't have said  because I was mad. In a sense, I participated in "cancel culture" and cancelled you. Doesn't matter, you had already cancelled me LOL. I don't think I've ever been so affected by someone deciding to drop me out of their life. It took some time to realize that my feelings were hurt. Anger presented itself first and I ran with it. I still don't really know what happened and I've made my peace with it. I just hope that you are really happy and that you hold on to the good times as tightly as I have. 

Love always, 

Ashley ♥

PS shout out to you for teaching me how to do my eyebrows! The gift that keeps on giving...fire selfies for life! 

PPS #amicutebitch

This week, I asked 2 questions on my IG. 

Question 1: Why have you ghosted a friend?
Answer 1: because of her relationship. I couldn't take the stress anymore. 
Answer 2: I didn't want to but it was a hindrance on my relationship
Answer 3: I think we just grew apart
Answer 4: Because after repeated conversation, she never changed and never saw fault in herself.

Question 2: When is it okay to ghost a friend?
Answer 1: depends on the situation. I didn't end the friendship. Just separated myself
Answer 2: Never. I should've explained to my friend exactly what was going on but instead I didn't. Won't make that mistake again. 
Answer 3: When your relationship becomes toxic and the other person isn't willing to change. 
Answer 4: When they're not listening. You can only have so many conversations before you realize the person they are is not a person you want around. 

These questions prompted a new question: what is ghosting?
After discussing with a few friends, the conclusion we came to that ghosting is ending a friendship completely on your terms and completely cutting off the other person. No conversation, no explanation, just disappearing. 

What do you consider ghosting to be? Do you have an answer for the questions? Let me know!

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