Is It For Me?

You know that feeling when you get a perfectly popped bag of popcorn...? Yeah, I was feeling that for a little bit. The bag was full, it smelled good, didn't see any burnt spots on the bag...Then I got to the middle, sadly, that amazing feeling disappeared.

That has nothing to do with what I'm blogging about, I just experienced it right before I started typing.

Anyway, Is it for me?
This week I've received some much needed clarity, had so much weight lifted off my shoulders, and took time to do some much needed reflecting. Sometimes we make excuses to hold on to people we know we should let go of. The struggle that I have with these kinds of decisions are:

• the time put into it
  
• what we've been through together
  
• promises made (going back on my word) 
• the fear of giving up on something 
• coming up with excuses for shortcomings
• how the other person would feel if I left
• the convenience
• making selfish decisions that effect others

There are probably more, but those are the ones that came to mind first. As I grow older, I realize that there are things that are for me and things that are not. Things that were for me when I was 15 may not be for me at 26. Growing and changing is a requirement to be considered a living thing...anybody who takes that personally has their own issues to deal with. 

I have entered a new space. A space where I only want things that are for me. 
I've not given up on anything, I've simply grown out of being the person who decides to accept things I shouldn't. I feel like I'm shedding an old layer. I care about people. I don't make these decisions lightly. But as I said...I only want things that are for me. 

***Being a person that's for me doesn't mean we can't have rough times. That's normal.***

I don't want anyone holding on to me because they are struggling with those things that I listed. I recognize that I'm not perfect. I got some issues, I got some things to work on, but it is nobody's responsibility to deal with me while I figure it out. Deciding to end any kind of relationship is difficult, but if that relationship is not for you, LEAVE!