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Heyyy! I cannot wait to move. As I’m writing this, my neighbors have music playing so loudly that I can hear the words to the song. The mom doesn’t work and she’s home with three or four kids all day. I think she tries to drown them out with music. IDK but why do I have to suffer? Anyway, let’s get into it! ← do I say that every time? Lol I feel like I do. This is about to sound like a love story LOL and will completely go against what some of you know about me. I have no shame! So this week’s post is all about rekindling old friendships. Not those raggedy friendships. Nope. Leave those alone. I mean the ones where you never thought you’d see the end. The ones that were nothing but laughter, shots, more laughter, deep conversation, even more laughter, more shots...or those childhood friendships where you were split up by geography and a lack of resources. I’ve had tons of friends at different phases of my life. Never was I truly alone. I might’ve been fighting some demons that convinced me that I was, but I always had people. Now some of those people are not here with me in this phase of my life. Most of them are not here because we grew apart. Some of them are not here because they don’t deserve to be. The friend that this is about, she and I didn’t grow apart and I didn’t feel like she didn’t deserve to be a part of my life. She just disappeared. So I wrote a post about her and our fading friendship. You can read all about it here: Dear Old Friend If you can remember, I was completely baffled at what happened in our friendship. I blocked her on most of my social media and I didn’t want to talk about her at all. I was BIG hurt. Never have I ever felt the need to backtrack on friendships. People are here for seasons and I am fully aware and comfortable in my understanding of that. People are 100% allowed to decide that they don’t want me in their life. I’m comfortable with that, too. All those other friendships, I was like Moneybagg “I don’t backtrack, man fuck that, I don’t miss nobody” But THIS one lol I was in my feelings. The pandemic moved this process of reconnecting along slowly and quickly at the same time. Obviously we couldn’t get together, which made it slow, but in all the years that we had been apart, we never talked as much as we did in the last year. We spoke a lot through text and instagram; always supportive of one another, not really addressing the elephant in the room. We decided we needed to reconcile in person. So until that time came, we continued to avoid discussing the issue. I didn’t mind, I was just happy that there was positive communication.
So let’s go back to June. She and I made a date to go to brunch. I was so nervous like it was a blind date or something. We ate and drank and caught up on YEARS of personal life stories. The restaurant closed and we moved to my car. That’s when we were able to really dive into this thing that we had been avoiding. The details aren’t important. What is important is that this whole time, we both felt the same way. We were both unsure of how it happened and thought that the other person ended it. Neither of us reached out in an attempt to respect what we thought the other person was choosing. Neither of us could let it go. What did I learn?
Obviously, things can’t go back to being the way they were because we’re not those people anymore, but I am excited for what the future holds and grateful for the lessons that I learned from this experience. Have you ever had second thoughts about an old friendship? Would you reach out to that friend? Have you rekindled an old friendship? How did you reconnect? Was the reconnection worth it? Thanks for reading! See you next week :)
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