5 Things I've Changed My Mind About

There are some things in my life that I’ve changed my mind about. At the time that I thought these things, I was locked into those opinions. Here are a few things that I’ve changed my mind about over the years.

​1. Shapewear. I used to hate the idea of shapewear. Like why would I want to hide my body? You can already see that I’m fat. I just didn’t get it. Somehow, I ended up with one piece. I’m not sure what I bought it for, but it was okay, I guess. It was a bottom piece to smooth out my stomach and thighs when I wear long, tighter fitting dresses. It wasn’t convincing enough to make me buy anymore. Fast forward a few years and I get a Yitty membership. I was buying onesies and loungewear, avoiding shapewear. I put on this dress one day and I thought I was so cute, until I wore it outside, saw pictures of myself and thought ohhhhhhh this is why people wear shapewear lol. I was still cute, but my belly was everywhere. Don’t get me wrong, I wear two piece bathing suits, crop tops, whatever. I’m not ashamed of my belly, I was just able to see that for me to look the way I want in some outfits or articles of clothing, shapewear may be beneficial. I’m still learning the pieces that work best for me, because I have small boobs and big everything else. I’m also still learning how to put the shit on by myself. It’s so fucking hard!!! It requires two people. I’ve made it work when I need to and I also have put it on and then asked my friends to fix it for me when I get to wherever I’m going. I am not saying that fat girls need shapewear to look good. I’m saying that sometimes I need shapewear to feel good about what I’m wearing.

2. Makeup. Similar to the way I felt about shapewear, I didn’t understand the purpose for makeup. You know what my face looks like so why cover it up? My recent expedition into the makeup world helped me understand that it’s not about a cover up. For me, it was about elevation. It’s a part of a dress code. For me, it’s not a daily thing, it’s an occasional thing. I’ve only worn it like 4 times, but only have good photos of one time! ​

3. ​Shoes in the house. As a result of Covid, I have developed a bit of a germaphobia. I didn’t understand why people made a big deal about people wearing shoes in the house. I never used to care. Maybe they have holey socks and don’t want to have to show that. Maybe their shoes make their feet stink and they don’t want people to smell it. I have been in both of those situations. But after Covid, my brain changed. Thinking about where people’s shoes have been grosses me out. Like do you know what’s on the ground? Do you understand what kinda shit you’re tracking into my home? TAKE YOUR FUCKING SHOES OFF!!!! This is one I struggle with, because I know it’s a result of my germaphobia and anxiety. I have strong boundaries, but I am insecure about my germaphobia. I feel like people think I’m crazy and not giving af about those opinions is still a little tough for me.

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4. Dark Romance. Before I get into this one let me just say that I enjoy reading these things, NOT HAVING THEM DONE TO ME. Now that we got that out of the way, let’s continue. Ok as recent as 2024, you couldn’t have paid me to read a book with a skull on the cover. I used to judge those books by their covers and be like hell nah I ain’t reading that shit. Then last September came around and Phantasma found its way to my door. I am forever changed and I’m not going back. I won’t go into detail about what these books entail, but just know, they have become a part of my happy place. Here are a few titles to look into, if you want to know more. 

5. Drinking. I was once the girl who could out drink most of my friends, never believed in wasting alcohol, and I drank with the intention of getting drunk. We were young, that’s what we did. Now, I can barely have more than two glasses of wine, I take baby shots, and if I don’t finish my drink at the restaurant OH WELL! My relationship with alcohol has changed so much. I never want to be drunk ever again. You couldn’t have told 23 year old Ashley that 33 year old Ashley would feel this way. I love a good margarita, old fashioned, and deep red wines. I don’t need much, though.

What are some things you’ve changed your mind about?

Thanks for reading!​