Basically, You Have to be Him

Welcome back, frans! After that last post I got a lot of responses. I thought I would explain why I write what I write. 

I started introducing my sex life into my blog, because my sex life was exciting from the very beginning! I’ve written the story of losing my virginity from both perspectives, I wrote about the start and end of my ho phase, and most recently, I’ve written about one of my kinks. I feel like each new phase of my life provides a new phase of sex as well. I opened the door, I can’t just close it now! I will close it if I get into a relationship because that would just be weird…

I have started sharing more about what I like sexually and I’ve gone back and forth about whether or not I should do that. Essentially, I’m explaining what to do to please me. But here is the thing that I’ve also learned, I could write an instruction manual but if the pieces don’t fit, they don’t fit. 

Each partner was teaching me something while life was also teaching me things. As I grow as a person and in sex, I learn more about what’s really attractive to me and all the ways that I’ve always rejected what wasn’t. I didn’t realize why it was happening! 

 My body rejects things. When people I don’t like try to hug me, I recoil. When people I don’t love say they love me, my mouth won’t form the words. If a man that I can’t take seriously says “cum for daddy” my body won’t do it. 

There has to be so many things right in order for anything I’ve put out there to work for any guy who tries it. One of the biggest things is respect. I have to respect him as a man and if you really know me, you know I hate men. They have a bit of an uphill battle there 🙃. Second, I have to really feel it in my soul that he means what he’s saying. I could write a list of praise kinks, like I did in my last post, but if the wrong guy is saying it, it won’t have the desired effect. Those things can’t come from just anybody…Do you want to know how I know? Because it happened in real life…

STORY TIME!!!!! But next time, because this is already too long!

To be continued…

Oh! Another song suggestion, not as spicy as the last one (: Thanks for reading!